Chapter 17 - The house meeting
Dan arranged a meeting.
Neutral mediator.
No birthday table.
Professional office.
Rules:
No interrupting.
No recording.
No name-calling.
We listed disputed issues.
Housing.
Cards.
Reimbursement.
Senior-planning payments.
Future care.
Louis started:
“I’ve put years into Dad’s house.”
Twenty-two months.
But some repairs were substantial.
Deck.
Drywall.
Garage door.
We valued unpaid labor roughly.
Not because family must invoice every kindness.
Because Louis believed labor gave him equity.
It did not automatically.
Still mattered.
I had spent about $19,000 beyond ordinary shared expenses on their personal charges.
Louis had contributed perhaps $8,000 in repairs and household costs beyond what he consumed.
The mediator asked:
“What are you trying to solve?”
Louis:
“Dad thinks we robbed him.”
Me:
“I think you used my money without asking.”
Carla:
“He gave us the cards.”
Me:
“For household expenses.”
Mediator:
“Was that written?”
“No.”
There it was.
Ambiguity.
Then she asked:
“Ernest, do you want them to remain in the house?”
“No.”
Louis looked at me.
That hurt him.
I continued:
“I want my son in my life. I do not want to live with him.”
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Different.
Important.
